Taking the bull by the balls Part 3

I’m calling you sissies out!

Ok I am just gonna say it, The gays are getting on my nerves. I know I know your thinking “Hey DJ are you not gay?” Yes I am but I am a gay with common sense, ah these is the difference. It seems I am also a that is not a coward gay.

So several states have decided “Hey we got some real issues going on, if two men or two women want to get married and drive each other fucking crazy who am I to deny them that?” and so many states are passing gay marriage laws or some kind of equivelant. Everybody is getting in on the fun except for California, who can say why, maybe the closet movie stars decided they couldn’t vote against prop 8, but I digress.

President Obama who has stated in the past he does not believe in gay marriage but he does believe in equality says yes to civil unions or same couple unions or whatever the buzz word is. Personally if it allows me to visit my sick partner in the hospital without a lot of bullshit you can call it booboo kitty fuck! Anyway we have a President who is clearly on our side, much more than the previous one, but clearly he is not moving fast enough for my fellow homosexuals. So they have decided to attack him, and they are boycotting, and doing all kinds of “cutting off your nose to spite your face” type shit.

The ziplock commercial taught is yellow and blue make green but what does yellow and pink make? What the hell do you mean there is going to be a stonewall cocktail party or whatever it is that is gay themed and the power gays that are invited are not going? How fucking crazy are you people, I mean have the poppers fried your brain cells? Excuse my racism but Damn yall is real white!

Where was all this noise and revolt and boycott of the invites to the gays from the Bush White house….oh yeah that is right, yall didn’t get invited to the White House cause nobody gave a fuck about you then. So now that someone has shown you a little attention you have decided to grow a pair? That is so gay!

So to my fellow gays, you want Gay to be the new black and really mean it, you will A) Learn a little fucking patience, people of color still catching hell across the country and the Emancipation proclamation was put into effect back in 1862. The Black Power Movement was 1966-1975 and we are still looking for a level playing field. B) Don’t attack your allies. We were in the dark for over 8 years and now you want to bite the hand that is feeding you cause the vittles are not coming fast enough?

I wish Barack would invite me to the White House, two minutes face time to make my case, Hell yeah I am going!

You crazy sissies! Gay has a long way to go for it gets black, right now it is still very yellow!

Taking the bull by the balls Part 2

A few random thoughts about gay Marriage.

So Prop 8 was upheld by the courts today in California and the gays are up in arms. I wonder just how long it will take for them to blame the President for this. I had a conversation with a friend today about Prop 8 and gay marriage and I told him at some point how tired I was of this conversation (not with him just in general).

In an earlier post I asked if gays thought that being gay was their ethnicity and nobody was able to convince me otherwise. So today when reading about the California Supreme Court upholding prop 8 I read all these stories comparing themselves to slavery. I find that so very offensive. Apples and Oranges people.

The “gay” community is mostly white; now that is not to say that all gays are white, just that most of your advertising and your numbers are geared toward white gay men and women. When you see the face of gay America there is very little color in that picture. So I find it odd that this group wants to identify with the civil rights fight when they are one of the most inclusive least diverse groups running around. Case in point… The groups fighting against Prop 8 in California, a state with a 35% Hispanic and Latino population waited until a week before the vote before printing any of their literature in Spanish.

The religious right does not want marriage to be “redefined” because they don’t want folks hoarding in on their racket. Marriage at its bases is about property ownership. Check the 16^th century when only people who, sorry only MEN who owned property. The poor didn’t get married, not in the legal sense that we know today. Also if marriage was simply about “God” then why do you need a marriage license? If you want to fight an injustice then by all means fight the whole injustice. The entire marriage system as it exists in this country today is flawed; let’s fight to overhaul the whole thing instead of just screaming how something is not fair.

And finally the next time I try to get into a “White gay club” please don’t ask me for three pieces of ID or treat me like I don’t belong. (see Civil Rights)

Taking the bull by the balls Part 1

Taking the bull by the balls is the new segment for all those topics which I am sure will cause uproar and naughty words. But after I hope will inspire actual conversation.

What about the children?

This is going to be one of those posts that you have to throw caution to the wind and just write it. It will be uncomfortable to write about and to discuss, but as I grow older I learn most things worth talking about are things that are hard to talk about.

The question is “What about the children?” This question in the last 20 years has served to shape our society. Think about it, that question has lead to removing the ability of parents to discipline their children. Were there kids out there being abused, of course, but sometimes a spanking is just a spanking. And in order to protect those few we created sweeping changes in the laws that in the end affected everyone. The Auto industry built accessories into cars solely based on children, things like the dual DVD screens that play different movies or my favorite, the window that won’t go down all the way. We created the child proof medicine cap that as I child I had to open for my great grandmother because her hands were too disfigured from arthritis to open on her own.

There are many many more examples and I could go on but I think you get the picture. Now for the uncomfortable part. We have raised a generation of children that are so protected there stupid and delusional. In trying to protect the next generation of children we have crippled them physically, mentally, and emotionally. We have taught the children to fear life in all aspects. And we have made life more difficult for ourselves in the process.

I posted a blog yesterday about enhancements to the body, physically or chemically, in order to compete and I asked if it was fair to allow some types of enhancement and not others. One response I got was very interesting; it said we should ban enhancement drugs from sports so our children don’t turn themselves into disfigured freaks trying to compete. Here is the truth of the matter, say I am a professional baseball player and I decide I want to enhance, as an adult is that not my right to do what I want to to my own body? If I grow a third eye out the back of my spine then as an adult I have to suffer the consequences. What I should not have to do is raise other people’s children for them. If you don’t want little Bobby or Melinda taking drugs then now and for the next 18 years of their life is your chance to have the conversations with them you need to have.

And at the end of the day that is the problem, when did we decide it was easier to write a law than talk to our kids? Grand Theft Auto is not to blame for your kid’s bad behavior, lack of teaching them how to act is the blame for their behavior. We as a society have convinced ourselves that children are too stupid to understand things so we dumbed it down until we stopped talking to them altogether.

Then we send them out in the world stupid, unable to cope, and believing that if they just show up they deserve a place on the team.

I have a friend who told me this story, I repeat it every chance I get because the point is usually lost. My friend told me when his niece was 6 or 7 years old he taught her if someone a friend a stranger a family member whoever ever touched her down there she was to scream at the top of her lungs “This muthafucka is touching my pussy and I need some help NOW!!!!”

His sister was not happy about that, and when he repeats the story someone usually says his name in that long drawn out tsk tsk kind of way. I don’t get it. Thos people never get the point of the story that he has taught this little girl to not be a victim, that if someone touches her in a way they should not she is able to get people’s attention and get help. They instead can’t believe that he taught her “muthafucker” and “pussy” two words I am sure she has heard on television anyway.

Lenore Skenazy is a freelance writer and blogger who runs a site called “Free-Range kids” that coincides with her book “Free-Range Kids: Giving Our Children the Freedom We Had Without Going Nuts with Worry”. She first came to my attention when she was attacked by the media for letting her 9 year old ride the subway all alone. He had been begging her to let him figure out his way home and so she armed him with a metro card, 20 dollars, a roll of quarters and the love of Jesus, and you know what, he made it home just fine. In fact she had given his something that kids today don’t get a lot of, a sense of independence and accomplishment.

In the end the old saying is true, it does take a village to raise a child, but when did the village become a high security prison camp you were locked up in for your own protection.